3:47 am  •  28 January 2012

laceypendragon:

Dont get me wrong-I totally support all sexes, genders, identities and orientation.
However, a lot of the time when I meet such a person, I’m not sure what pronouns they prefer or if being called ‘pretty’ or ‘handsome’ will offend them or not and I’m really shy about asking. I don’t know the correct way to bring up my confusion.
To those that are like this, (what is the term, by the way? I’ve hear gender queer but I don’t know if that’s right or not) What’s the best way for a well intentioned person to ask you about your identity?

If you’re not referring to transgender people, then genderqueer is a good umbrella term. And you can just ask “what pronouns do you prefer?”, it won’t offend them :)

12:59 am  •  27 January 2012  •  5 notes

Just fyi

2:18 pm  •  26 January 2012

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:o this is exciting.

12:03 am  •  26 January 2012  •  8 notes

Does anyone know of any stores that kinda focus on more androgynous clothing? I have a wonderful dream about a store that just sells CLOTHING, instead of “women’s clothing” and “men’s clothing” cause that’s bullshit when it comes to non-gendered clothing items like t-shirts or sweaters or even jeans.

2:13 pm  •  24 January 2012  •  3 notes

Thank to those of you who’ve been sticking around.

I’ve been dealing with a lot of shit lately. Nasty shit. Random waves of dysphoria and general worthlessness. To those of you who follow me, I appreciate it cause it means you like what I post here at least a little bit.

I’ve gone through a lot of discovery, about how I feel about myself and my body, and about what I want. I am identifying pretty solidly as neutrois, but I’m not sure if I feel like I’m neutral, agender, or “other gender”. Im also set module gender neutral pronoun “ze”, although I prefer “zir” as opposed to “hir”. I’m now looking into doing some “natural transition”, just raising my natural testosterone levels to build some muscle, not to make my body more masculine but rather less feminine (and flabby, but that’s a little off topic)

So if anyone has experience with that, please let me know. I’d appreciate anything you have to say.

(please not that I don’t really identify as Trans* it’s just tagged that way to get more signal re the natural stuff)

1:21 pm  •  24 January 2012  •  2 notes

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(Source: trans-itionfundcollective)

1:13 pm  •  15 January 2012  •  8 notes

ghost-bustier:

Someday, my child is going to ask, “Is that person a boy or girl?”

Children are ignorant and curious and learn by asking. It happens. I’ve read accounts of the targets of this question reacting in a variety of ways, from amused to offended. Personally, I think getting offended a legitimate ignorance is a waste of emotional energy, but I can see how the parent’s reply COULD be offensive.

So, from the position of a generally uninformed cisgendered person, I am honestly asking:

What answer would you like to see me give?

Should I suggest she ask you herself how you identify and possibly embarrass someone struggling with the same question?

Should I tell her it’s something that is rude to ever ask anyone and discourage any further discussion?

Keep in mind, young children struggle with intangible concepts and complex explanations but still crave knowledge intrinsically. An answer will eventually need to be given; but what?

Tell the child that “are you a boy or a girl” is generally not well recieved, but “how do you identify” or “what are your pronouns” is much better. But unless the kid understands concepts of gender, this might be difficult. Teach that sex and gender are separate concepts, and also that gender presentation is not the same as gender identity.

(Source: theghostbustier)

6:39 pm  •  12 January 2012  •  7 notes

autumn-and-eve:

If you describe pansexuality as “Liking girls, boys, and transgender people” without specifying if you mean exclusively non-binary trans people, you are doing something seriously wrong.
Fuck off,
Autumn

3:55 pm  •  30 December 2011  •  68 notes

singingitfortumblr:

Hey guys,

It’s okay to be in the closet. It’s okay to not be ready to tell everyone around you. It’s okay to decide it’s no one’s business unless you’re sleeping with them. It’s okay to adjust yourself before you admit it to the world. It’s okay. It’s not okay that other people make you scared to tell the world, but it is okay to be scared. It’s okay to do whatever you have to do to come to terms with your orientation and identity.

It’s not okay to shame people for making different choices to you. It’s not okay to shame people for handling these things differently.

Be proud of yourself. Be happy with yourself. If, for you, that doesn’t mean telling the world about your orientation, that’s okay. If, for you, that means fighting for your own rights quietly and never saying why, that’s okay. If, for you, that means proclaiming that this is a part of who you are, that’s okay, too.

^^^^^^

Fucking that.

(Source: limit4tion, via gender-interrupted)

1:44 am  •  24 December 2011  •  176 notes